She knows this.

Believe her when she says that you are in kind of a bit of an extraordinary way. She sees things - she notices. The way you speak to him, so small and furry and dependent upon you for everything. The way you listen and understand the things she says and doesn't say. The willingness to engage in the minutiae of her life in a real and helpful way. The way you've brought her into your world - the reality of it, not just the ethereal beautiful parts (although you do that too, much to her delight). And the way that you allow her - and yourself - to have the kind of space that grows a relationship in a healthy way, letting two people be individuals who can still care deeply about one another. You allow space that creates longing, not doubt.

She knows because she's been where it wasn't kind. Where it wasn't a highly valued thing to the person she loved most, the person who said he loved her most. One of the things she wanted most of all - he couldn't see past his anger and pride to give to her.

So when she says you are kind: believe her.